Thursday, 29 April 2010

This morning

My little boy has had his best friend for a sleepover. As expected, they woke at 5.30 am - uurgh!! I couldn't get cross, however, when I found they had been busy making this giant tea party for the teddies of the house.

My big boy has gone on his first school camp. He was very excited when he set off yesterday. Paul and I have been holding back the tears of course, as he seems way too little to be going away on his own. It's been a difficult year for him as he has gone into a new class with kids who are either older or a bit more worldly than him, the more 'boyish' kind of boys if you know what I mean. While he seems to be quite popular in the class (he was nominated student representative) we can see that he is not really able to relax and be himself, so we've been anxious about the camp, and just about him growing up in general, I mean where did those 8 years go? The saddest thing was seeing his favourite bear left behind, it's the first time he hasn't slept with him since he was three months old. Being the big softies that we are, Paul and I slept with Teddy in our bed last night! We just couldn't leave him on his own. Gosh, it's hard being a parent, isn't it? Hard sometimes being with your kids, and always hard being without them!

11 comments:

Buttons by Lou Lou said...

So many hard things. I can see moments like that coming for my kids. My oldest is a big softie and I sometimes wonder if they have too many nice manners compared to other kids. He's not such a 'boyish' boy either. I am definitely going to struggle seeing him go off along.

We are just at the kinder stage. Started well but apparently not so interested second term. Hard to know when to push and when not too. Ahh the joys of parenthood.

zofia said...

What a beautiful picnic for all those toys!
Bittersweet...we're nearing that time, I love that you slept with his bear. :)

SAMBELLINA said...

Oh I think that is so gorgeous, that you slept with his teddy !! I would do that too.....It is so beautiful and amazing to watch them grow up, but you just want to freeze them in time. Hope his camp is great xx

Hey Bambini said...

l love that you slept with teddy! Time go's so quickly. Hope camp was fun.

Little Ted Canvas said...

Oh, boy! It sure is hard to watch them grow up, the worrying about so many little things never seems to end, you can't help but be protective of their spirits & their self confidence..yep, sure is tough being a parent! My 8yr old boy still sleeps with teddy, he took him to the school sleepover last year, not so sure about the big grade 3 camp this yr though..I love that teddy tea party, too cute!

Magdalena, The Craft Revival said...

I have all of the same concerns as you! My son is 4.5 and he's going to start prep next year. It's a big leap from Kinder to "big boy School" full of new experiences, new faces, routines and the force of "growing up". Not only that but my son is a child who takes things very personally and worries about the little things like kids not wanting to be his friend. He certainly wears his heart on his sleeve and I believe that makes him more vulnerable and susceptible to bullying - although he gives it as good as he gets it.

Yes, being a parent is difficult, but I just keep reminding myself that there are other out there who go through the same things and we're certainly not alone. Our parents went through it, maybe not exactly the same, but they went through it when we were little.

I dread the day my son can no longer take teddy out in public with him!

Jackie said...

They sure do grow up fast and yes it;s really tough being left behind! My daughter is 8 too, going on 18! She has to hide her favourite teddy when her friends come round as she thinks it's not cool to have him in bed! So glad you had his teddy in bed with you both - being a bear lover I think that was a fab idea - and hope it helped you to feel close to your son whilst he was away. Sending completely-understand-how-you-fell hugs xx

Miss Sew & So said...

oh it's soo hard- does it ever get easier? how much do we love our kids ...& how big is the world!
my eldest has just turned 12 & is truely 'still' a gift- she makes us smile everyday...& my youngest turned 5 today & will always be my magic mad baby...but my heart rides on the shoulders of my only special boy - who just turned 9- he is not a boys boy- but is a leader amongst his friends- he has such a quiet dignified confidence about himself...& that is what i rely on to get him through life- his humble but quiet confidence in himself. Your 8 year old sounds a little like this- & as women there is always going to be a part of our sons we don't 'get' due to our make-up, but this is what i think makes them sooo special to us...
you hug him loong & tight when he gets home....

melissa x
Miss Sew & So

ps -i ask these things all the time on my blog -come and give us your thoughts when you've finished hugging him....

vanessa said...

Oh Allison..that is just the sweetest post :) I worried about exactly the same things and my son is now 14...he is not 'street-wise' but confident and funny and smart and very sweet. He is not all toughness either..still kisses me in public and doesn't seem to care. I would worry constantly about when was the right time for him to let go of childhood things...my hubsand would always say don't worry..things will happen naturally..and they did. He still has soft toys in his room and one box of transformers and a myriad of treasured little niknaks. He doesn't seem at all concerned when friends come over... I tell myself...things will happen when they should and try to let him be..so, so precious..enjoy :)

Umatji said...

oh it is a quandry isn't it! I struggled most not on the first day of kinder but on the first day my boy forgot to kiss me goodbye!

PottyMouthMama said...

So, so sweet, I loved this post. So much so it made me cry. I can absolutely relate to all those fears and that anxiety. x